I am by nature an optimistic person.  Things get me down periodically but I always think that tomorrow is a fresh day with a fresh start.  Shake it off and step up.  Optimistic people have the ability to not let things crush them.  Sometimes, optimistic people get on my nerves.  Sometimes I get on my own nerves. 

There is a time to mourn.  When things die, break, disappear, change, move…well grief is a natural phenomenon and needs to be embraced, processed and eventually dissipated.   I am reminded of Billy Joel’s line “you’re only human, you’re supposed to feel that way”. 

Interestingly, there are a lot of things in life that can be a season of celebration and a season of mourning.  Graduating from a course of study is both a gain and a loss.  Moving from middle age to older age is both a gain and a loss.  Changing residences or neighbourhoods can be progress and a disruption.  Turning 30 is a sign of maturity and a release of youthfulness (for some).  I know there are two sides to every situation but THERE ARE two sides. 

So, periodically I sit down and write in my journal my feelings of loss and sorrow.  I do grieve and mourn.  At times I am actually surprised over what I grieve.  Feelings of sadness flood up and like a leak in the basement I have to figure out where they are coming from.  Occasionally I am surprised.  I am surprised that  something so seemingly small and insignificant can have such a profound effect on me. But hey, I guess I am human. 

For me the key is not letting the emotions of the moment overrule my sensible judgment.  I come from good Scottish roots—we admire reason over passion.  So, people see me as steadfast, stable, unflappable.  Most of the times I am, but I won’t lie to you—I have feelings too!   And so do you.

What makes you sad?

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